Older workers — and their younger supervisors — say the dynamics are tricky but can work with effort on both sides.

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It might be every parent’s greatest dread – arriving at the time your children take care of you.  Role reversals and “status incongruence” – uncomfortable twists to the natural order of things – can lead to feelings of isolation and inadequacy.  These same feelings are now migrating to the workplace as increasingly older workers have bosses who are years, sometimes decades, younger than they are.

According to this New York Times article, “Companies these days are looking to fill the management ranks with people who are ‘digital natives,’ which frequently translates to millennials and Gen X-ers. Meanwhile, more baby boomers are staying on the job longer, and some retirees, looking for a second act, are rejoining the ranks of the employed, at least part time.  Consequently, the odds are increasing that older workers will be answering to managers young enough to be their children. A 2014 Harris Interactive survey…found that 38 percent of American workers had a younger boss, up from 34 percent in 2012.”

Research offered here shows that people in this “May-December” relationship don’t necessarily live happily ever after.  David Stillman, co-author with his son, Jonah, of the new book “Gen Z @ Work” notes, “Older workers may feel they’ve lost their shot at running the show, and younger workers may feel their older subordinates just can’t wait for them to mess up…”

Joanne Kaufman agrees, “Older workers may be made to feel that they’re dinosaurs. Younger bosses may think that, yeah, the older worker is kind of a dinosaur.”

So, what is the solution?  It appears the answer is the same as in any relationship. “It’s something we have to work through, and we have to figure out how to make it work.”  It requires, among other things, valuing “business intelligence” regardless of age, having discipline, professionalism, and a willingness to work together.

There’s no silver bullet.  Drat, I was hoping this one would be easy.

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